Monday, February 04, 2008

Motivation


I don't want to wait until I'm 40.

Where do you get your motivation?

As a stay-at-home Mom I seem to GREATLY lack motivation to do things. I can never keep up on laundry, my closets and cupboards are a MESS and I never do anything remotely hobby-ish other than reading. I used to be very creative. I do have the excuse of being pregnant right now, but I am ALWAYS tired. I can have a nap any time of day. Even if I just got up. I know that I could benefit from medication but I really don't want to go down that road again, especially being pregnant. I could start up therapy again but that means I'd have to find a babysitter for appointments. Whine, whine, whine. I laid on the couch this afternoon while Avrie napped and Nolan played downstairs. I didn't read a book. I didn't work on clock stuff. I didn't clean my kitchen. I didn't put away the clean laundry. I didn't dig out the yarn and needles. I didn't paint. I just laid on the couch. For an hour. Without sleeping. Arrrgggh.

Other moms seem to have it together. Projects with the kids. Trips to museums, story hour, etc. I have all I can do to get Nolan to preschool twice a week and to the Y occasionally. What's their secret?

11 comments:

Justin, Sara and Simon said...

You're looking at someone who wonders how other people do it, too. And when I was pregnant? Talk about lazy! The only thing I got done after working 5 hours was naps and a walk...that's it. I didn't even have any kids!

Lani said...

Go easy on yourself, Shannon. These people that seem to have it all together? Well, they probably aren't as "together" as we think they are behind the scenes. Or maybe they are. If you figure out their secret, let me know.

Shannon said...

well, i think some moms make it on coffee. but a) i hate coffee and b) i don't want to be dependent on something and let it rule my life. so many people think they aren't addicted to something and don't realize they can't make it without their coffee/diet coke. my husband is unbearable until he gets his morning cup of joe.

Chloe said...

i was gonna say either they use a lot of drugs/caffeine...or they aren't really as put together as they seem. i'm lucky if i remember to feed chloe 3 times a day when i'm home with her. and aaron seems to get so much accomplished on the days he's home with her...i can't figure it out!? (maybe he has a secret helper everyday...)

ethel said...

i admit i'm addicted to tea..the process of making it, the tea, the aroma..
motivation? sometimes people ( me) are just running around in circles and we forget the longterm goals..the meaning behind life..that's where motivation starts..what is meaningful? sometimes it takes some digging to find it. i've found some and i'm still digging. personally, i think just sitting on the couch is exactly what you were supposed to do today..i think we just need to stop , pause..consider more often

Mindy said...

i too doubt that any mom has it totally together. you need to lounge around on the couch right now. every day your body is busy creating some vital part of your new child.

Amber said...

I know you really don't know me, but I love to read your blog...and you seem like one of "those" moms to me! I have had people make comments about my togetherness, and I feel the same as you. I am pregnant with my 4th baby, and I am sooo tired I could cry. I get done what I can and figure the world won't end if something is left undone. Don't sweat the small stuff, and take care of yourself first, because your family NEEDS you, they can live with unorganized cabinets.

Shannon said...

thanks ya'll =) i think i have a bad case of SAD...i'm so, so very ready for winter to be OVER.

Jenny said...

I never felt like one of the put-together moms either. And when I DID get them all fed/diapered/bundled/buckled I was exhausted and crabby and they didn't appreciate the outing like I thought they should so I gave up. Now I only do things for me, and they get to come along. Storytime at the library? Who cares, unless I have books in mind to get for ME. We can read stories just as well here at home, close at hand to snacks at the first whimper. So anyway, I say, enjoy being at home...and pregnancy IS probably a huge factor in the no-motivation department. It was for me.

Neisha said...

I agree with Lani and Mindy. Not all moms who look put together really are. I make it to story time every week because the kids insist but as for around the house it tends to be chaos. I also agree with Amber, don't sweat the small stuff.

jspjtgunnar said...

those "put-together-moms" are probably taking their kids' ritalin. i've heard it has the opposite affect on adults than on kids.
i wish i had it all together. i've given up. my clothes and my kids clothes are usually messy, when we go somewhere, we forget 1/2 the things we NEED to bring, but seem to have stuff we don't NEED, and we're late too.